Of course, from the women's point of view the men go in when the fire
is barely dying down and it is ridiculously hot, while the women go
at the optimum time when it is still hot but not insanely so.
Alternatively, they go on different days, and in the women's view
they just know how to set fires better to get just the right
conditions.
It is sort of like cooking chili--"most" women are proud when
everyone says how tasty it is and ask for seconds, "most" men are
proud when everyone says how hot it is, and nobody but them can
finish their bowl.